The other day, I was listening to one journalist doing an interview with some of the very promiscuous women, about the kind of men they would wish as their husband! (commonly referred as their type), And these qualities came up often as far as I can remember;

1. He must be Tall(6feet3) and muscular, 2. Making 6 figures (millionaire) 3. Bad boy and royal (which seem contradictory). i.e uncontrollable (not a simp) and royal.

What struck me as more surprising was the correlation these qualities have with the biblical standard for a Masculine Man worth marriage i.e; 1. Provider, 2. Protector, 3. Leader (priest and prophet). Isn’t it surprising to find that, however sinful a woman is, she still caves for somehow the same things the bible describes as Manly! Isn’t it more surprising to find also that these are the same things some women (feminists) claim to fight against! (They claim to hate an assertive Man i.e a leader, saying “he is controlling”. On one hand they claim to hate an absent man (i.e busy working) which is often explained to imply that ‘they want an idle man’ who is always creative to entertain them and their emotions yet who is also a billionaire...). This is why I strongly believe that not only is feminism un-natural, it is anti-women.

Now, if we may move from street talks to the word of God, In Genesis 3:16 we are told “Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee”. Here we are looking at the curse of God unto the woman to drive home this point! Though we see God calling Adam (as federal head) first as answerable for the fall of man, it doesn’t end there! Soon later we equally see God calling Eve to take responsibility for her sin. So, we are going to look at the responsibilities of women in creating this endemic effeminacy in Men, the same men they resent for being effeminate. It is not an easy task (As one Man said “in this era, you can measure the soundness of a church by how it speaks against the sin of women)! But we have to be willing to take on the heavy Godly tasks as the Prophets of old gladly did. Not as though we are prophet in their caliber, but rather an attempt to stand in their footsteps (despite our punity).

Well, in explaining the above verse, Garris lists 3 ways this verse has been interpreted:

1. View 1, “which sees Genesis 3:16 as a reaffirmation of creational hierarchy. One possibility is that since the woman broke from the authority of her husband in her transgression (3:1-6), God “redirected”

2. View 2, which sees this as a perversion of creational hierarchy, has two possibilities. One option takes the actions of both the husband and the wife as negative (the wife is devoted to usurping her husband’s authority, and the husband exercises an abusive authority over her), while the second option takes the wife’s “devotion” as positive but the husband’s “rule” as negative (even when the wife is devoted to her husband, he may still abuse authority over her).

3. 3. View 3 takes the wife’s actions as negative and the husband’s actions as positive (the wife is devoted to usurping her husband’s authority, and the husband “must” exercise godly rule in order to overcome her attempted usurpation). This view relies heavily on the parallel construction of Genesis 4:7.

Regardless of which interpretation, we can all appreciate the fact that, the fall resulted in the creation of tension in the relationship between Men and Women that was not there before. And the only way this tension in genders can be obliterated, is by returning to original design of God when he created Men and Women. This will only happen when each gender take responsibility for its role in creating this mess, we are in.

Well, it is not surprising that in an age where the prevalence in Darwinism evolution has become common (hence the denial of creational gender roles), this tension has only become uncontrollable and every medicine provided for it has hopelessly failed. Indeed, the bible is God’s only solution for human dilemma.

Women have 2 ways they help in the creation of Godly men. One is by being Feminine and embracing their rank in Gender roles, and second is by raising ungodly boys 1 Timothy 2:15 we are told ‘Yet she will be saved through childbearing if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self- control’.

ON GENDER AND SEX

We are told in Genesis chapter 2:27 “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; MALE and FEMALE CREATED HE THEM.”

This fact if repeated in the Bible over and over again, emphasizing that Men and women are created different. And this difference is not merely superficial or trivial but deep, extensive and all encompassing. They all have arms, brain, soul… but they differ physically, psychologically, mentally ... and this difference is natural, reflected in gender roles God assigned to each! As Zachary M. Garris said;

“The Bible speaks to how men and women should behave (gender as a social expression), and it ties such roles to the natural biological differences between men and women (biological sex) ... a man is to act like a man and a woman is to act like a woman... God has assigned different gender roles and duties to humans based on their biological sex. While these roles vary in cultural expression and are subject to distortion as a result of sin, they are rooted in creation, not culture... A person’s “sex” is biologically determined (either male or female), and “gender” is a social expression of this biological basis (masculine or feminine).

It is the modern divorce between this reality of gender role as rooted in biological sex that has created modern sexual androgyny. But God will not be mocked! What we sow, is what we will reap as humanity! As Zachary M. Garris said again “Scripture not only commands men and women to fulfill their proper roles, but it also forbids confusing roles. Men are not to act like women, and women are not to act like men. To do so is “contrary to nature” (Romans 1:26) and such rebellion against God’s design may in fact be evidence that a person is not a genuine believer in Christ.

GENDER ROLE

God created Male and Female in his image (i.e equal in intrinsic value), but He created them Male and female i.e different (Physically or biologically, Psychologically, mentally ...) in every way possible to be called different names from creation (i.e male and female) and receive different condemnation in the fall of man. This difference is grounded in creation and not in culture (though there are many cultural expressions of it), and is the basis upon which God gave different roles to both male and female! This reality is what Feminist and the men they have emasculated fights against.

Bavinck says “we can both underestimate and overestimate this distinction” between men and women. Throughout history some have overestimated the distinction by denying woman “the status of being fully human.” Yet Scripture affirms that both men and women are made in God’s image and thus are both fully human. Bavinck says, “Woman can be a helper suitable for the man only because she is his equal and reflects God’s image just as much as he does.” The bible clearly fights against women oppression! Yet it does so while keeping the balance between women oppression and women going against their nature and area of operation. We live in a feminized culture, not only are masculine traits seen with contempt, they are punishable! Sexual androgyny is the pride of our time. What men do, women can do also cry the prophet of our time!

Deuteronomy 22:5 “The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord thy God.” In other words, sexual androgyny or sexual confusion is an abomination unto the Lord. If God use this small thing in clothing to maintain gender differences, how much more does he care that we portray this in our lives as we relate to each other!

One Man brilliantly observed “when an institution is led by women, they tend to turn it into a more consensus driven because women are not made for conflict and combat, a nurturing entity, ... thus, they will soak it with policing language (don’t be insensitive) hence compromise in workers are held responsible, create agreeable environment at the expense of justice and truth (suicidal empathy),... while Men led institution lean much towards Justice, truth, reward, responsibility,...” all these DIFFERENCES are not bad! They are only bad when placed in the wrong place. This is exactly why the bible say that a society ruled by women is a sign of god’s Judgement on that society- Isaiah 3:12 As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths.

This is not to mean that women are defective or subhuman or less intelligent than Men! It is simply a fact that women are different to men and are not created to be leaders! It is against their nature. The same goes to men! The fact that Men are not good at nursing, does not mean that they are less than women! It only means that Men are not created generally as nurturer. This has been affirmed by how women vote in the USA (at least they are transparent than us to be relied on) where women vote overwhelmingly Democrats while Men vote Republican! I am not a politician but this trend is very obvious to any beginner who take time to read their respective manifestoes.

FEMININITY

Masculinity in the Bible is associated with strength, authority, responsibility, and mission. While femininity;

1. is associated with SUBMISSION; 1 Peter 3:1 ‘Likewise, ye wives, be subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may be won by the conversation of their wives;”. The word ‘in subjection to your own husbands is really clear despite all the smear campaigns to make it obscure!

2. Being of “MEEK and QUEIT SPIRIT” Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. This quality of meekness is correctly a call to every Christian, men included! But it especially and naturally woman virtue as it relates to gender role. The same is true with all these feminine virtues.

3. HOME-MAKING: Proverbs 31:27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness". n 1 Timothy 5:14 we are told "I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully", women inability to GUIDE the house bring reproach to the faith. Paul writing to Titus said "That they may teach the younger women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discrete, chaste, KEEPERS AT HOME, good, OBEDIENT TO THEIR OWN HUSBANDS, that the word of the God be not blasphemed". Titus 2:4-5. I know that feminist and their enabler have worked so hard to tuist these verses! But I also know that when Satan tempted Christ while twisting Scriptures, Christ won by quoting Scripture back! We have no other weapon, and need any other.

4. CHILDBEARING: 1 Timothy 2:15) we are told ‘Yet she will be saved through childbearing if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control’. Bearing children is the highest calling of women! With feminism, this has been portrayed as a ‘burden’, but the bible makes it clear that having children is an incredible blessing. Feminists really acts as spoiled children! Any adult person know that there are very few good things we can get this side of eternity without pain! Can we say that because man is to eat through the sweat … therefore he has to refrain from it! Many do so, but they do so against the bible and through that sowing they reap their due. The same is with women who refuse to have children! They end up miserable in their 60’s with pets. We can even deduce from the curse God gave to Eve (in pain she is going to have children) how this is in a special way a feminine responsibility.

ON FEMINISM

Feminism is the ideas that Men and Women are not only equal in worth but also essentially the same naturally (sexual androgyny- Gender is social construct that must be obliterated), therefore in feminists ideal society, Men and women should have the same function as Men, in fact if they are not equally represented in position of power irrespective of competency, then there is something wrong with that society and a sign of oppression of women ( which is in a special way the exact reason why feminism and Marxism are intertwined).

Graglia excellently argues (Garis points out) that feminism operates on two flawed assumptions: (1) Equality means sameness (meaning men and women must do the same things); and (2) Most differences between men and women are imposed by culture.

These are the working premises of Feminism. Whether it presents itself against Christianity openly or manipulate its way through Christianity and pose itself as a biblical way. This is why feminist can’t comprehend women remaining and learning in silence in the church, that is why they can’t grasp the idea of Men being Leaders with authority in the church, homes and society, ... I was listening to Thomas Sowell argue brilliantly that “when you put remote control in the hand of women and men in different rooms, with no coercion, their choice of channels to watch will be different” (paraphrasing). But according to feminist premise, this also constitute “UNFAIRNESS”! And they invariably run campaigns and paralyze everything against similar situations. They say this in football, they say this in Politics, they say this university admissions …

We are told in the bible that Now the serpent was more cunning than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made. -Genesis 3:1 And still is! It is no coincidence that the Bible call women “weaker vessel’ and this Serpent had to pass through Eve to ruin humanity (a fact that even Apostle Paul make use of). We therefore should be on our guard.

SOME OF THE CHARACTERISTICS OF FEMINISM

1. It pushes that MEN and WOMEN are essentially the same, and therefore interchangeable. By this feminism deny nature. Zachary M. Garris said; First-wave feminism adopted an egalitarian view of men and women that stemmed from the most radical wing of the Enlightenment, that of the Jacobins. The Jacobin party was the political faction of the French Revolution that carried out the Reign of Terror in 1793–1794. Jacobin “equality” stands in opposition to the British tradition of equality before the law. Whereas the British (and thus American) view of equality entailed equal treatment under the law, the Jacobin view meant sameness. This is an equality that flattens the world by tearing down hierarchy and GENDER differences. It is the same view that Marxism preach by advocating for classless society! It doesn’t want a society where the rule of the game is the same and everyone is free to compete according to his/her ability. If there is equal treatment under the law but there is no sameness of results(outcome), then there is something wrong. It envisions a society where those who work hard for their lifestyle are envied, and crashed to satisfy the vision of sameness with the lazy. This is why when women are not equal in number in political position, the answer advocated is never equal treatment but rather preferential treatment to get same results. This idea has penetrated all areas of our lives! From women pastors to men in women sports ... Eve when they argue against preferential treatment (because of their ego), it remains a sign of oppression it these ideas of SAMENESS (of outcome) is not achieved! At the same time, they regard it as success if Men are underrepresented (and not as oppression).

2. Feminism is tyrannical and essentially Marxist and, in that sense, a “religion”; a Feminist is not satisfied with herself being feminism. She seeks to convert others, by force if need be! If other prefer traditional gender roles, they are either brainwashed and miserable in need to be saved from themselves or they are oppressed so much for so long that they have identified themselves with the oppressor (Survivor mechanism-fatalism or docility). It can’t be out of free and enlightened mind. While there has been diversity among feminists, “all branches of feminism are united in the conviction that a woman can only find identity and fulfillment only in a career. - Said Zachary M. Garris. If you are satisfied with anything other than a carrier as a woman, then you are brainwashed and miserable.

3. Feminism promotes sexual revolution in that it supports, women independence from men including their Fathers, Promiscuity, abortion, hook-up culture. Biblically, women are under authority and protection by their Fathers since birth up to when they are married where this is transferred to their husband Numbers 30:6-8. All this feminism tore down. Their salvation is in carriers and disobedience against everyone except themselves (narcissism). Garris said Feminism’s “long-term goal” has been to “create a society in which women behave as much like men as possible” so that women will “hold equal political and economic power with men.” Feminist methods have included the promotion of the sexual revolution, as well as the support of no-fault divorce laws and affirmative action requirements, the latter of which has given preference to women in education and job opportunities. It is that long premise of sameness! And whenever these conflicts with biology they Create all incentives possible to achieve it. If a woman gets pregnant, her careerism is put on hold! That is why they support abortion (sacrifice an innocent child at the altar of career). This is why Feminism support no fault divorce laws, because marriage is not compatible with feminist paradise of career. Yet because Humanity is naturally sexual, they promote hook-up culture and promiscuity while pushing for a pill (contraceptive) despite its effects on women health, to avoid the burden of children as they call it! They have moved so far as to call it “safe sex”

4. Feminism being essentially Marxist, it hates the family and see it as oppressive! And if it allows it, it pushes for women to abandon their children for carriers and call Men to be effeminates so that they can do feminine duties on their behalf. They invent all kinds of blackmail to achieve this, one of them being ‘servant leadership, a loving husband where you are more loving when you are feminine as a man. Warfield said, “[T]he differences in conclusions between [the Apostle] Paul and the feminist movement of today is rooted in a fundamental difference in their points of view relative to the constitution of the human race. To Paul, the human race is made up of families . . . To the feminist movement the human race is made up of individuals; a woman is just another individual by the side of the man, and it can see no reason for any differences in dealing with the two.” To the bible a woman is a helper to the vision of her husband, to feminist a woman is an independent individual who should develop herself as an independent person.

As the egalitarian idea of sameness entered the church, the existence of male authority and ruling over women, became oppressive and purely the results of the fall and not the result of God’s design! Garris wrote “Egalitarians then argue that unity in Christ overcomes male authority and we must return to the creation ideal of non-hierarchical marriage. In his book Flame of Yahweh: Sexuality in the Old Testament, Davidson affirms the New Testament’s teaching that a husband has authority over his wife, but he argues this hierarchy is rooted in the fall, where God said to Eve, “Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you” (Genesis 3:16). According to Davidson, the fall exposed women to subjection to their husbands. Thus, Davidson can still affirm Paul’s teaching that wives should submit to husbands (Ephesians 5:22), but he says this was not part of the original creation. Davidson reasons from this that, despite Paul’s commands, husbands and wives should seek the egalitarian ideal.” If only Satan could not have used scripture to tempt Christ, we could believe this nonsense. God Created a woman as help meet for her husband, not as the collaborator with independent vision! And it was before the fall! (Genesis 2:18) The woman was created for the man (Corinthians 11:8-9), John Calvin says on this verse that “a woman was created from the man and therefore inferior to him! Man named his wife (authority) in Genesis 3:20, right in the middle of God condemnation and covering their nakedness and the name stood (he did not ask for her input neither did the woman object to it) and God did not object to it as not being egalitarian. In fact this is nowhere taught in the Bible. As German theologian Werner Neuer says, “The equal worth of men and women according to Genesis 2:18 and other passages is not to be confused with their equal rank, but it includes a super/subordination of equally valuable partners.”

Feminism with its mother (egalitarianism) has so infected the church that now, you cannot dare to say that ‘it is Unbiblical for women to be Pastors, or that they can’t have authority over Men’. They claim that Gender role is result of the fall, and not what God intended in creation. So egalitarian envision the abolishment of all gender differences in favor of what they see as original egalitarian creation order. Women Pastors and elders, Women Presidents, …

COMPLEMENTARIANISM

We also have complementarianism, which is an attempt to bridge the gap between egalitarianism and Biblical Patriarch. I will quote Zachary M. Garris who made a fair case for this;

“Complementarianism compromised foundational principles of the historic Christian teaching on men and women. This compromise can be seen in two points: (1) Complementarianism expresses discomfort in using the terms “authority” and “hierarchy” for its position, while introducing confusion in its use of the word “equality;” and (2) Complementarianism fails to explicitly root gender roles in the differing natures of men and women. These two compromises of complementarianism gave too much ground to their egalitarian counterparts and left room for confusion and inconsistencies among complementarian adherents.

1. John Piper and Wayne Grudem explicitly state: [W]e certainly reject the term “hierarchicalist” because it overemphasizes structured authority while giving no suggestion of equality or the beauty of mutual interdependence... The Bible commands wives to “submit” to husbands because the husband is the “head” the authority of his wife (Ephesians 5:22-24; Colossians 3:18). The Greek word used for a wife’s “submission” in these passages is υ#ποτάσσω (hupotasso), which certainly encompasses hierarchy. This is clear from the Greek dictionaries “Every NT use” of υ#ποτάσσω “involves some sense of hierarchy,” and, “Originally it is a hierarchical term which stresses the relation to superiors.”

2. The second compromising position of complementarianism is that it fails to explicitly root gender roles in the differing natures of men and women. To them, gender role does not reflect differing nature of Men and Women! This is why Men like Tim Keller would say that women can do anything that man does. Women role given by God are not reflected in their nature thus anything a Man does a woman can do also, only that she is prohibited. This has been the opening door for many evangelical feminists establishing themselves as preacher!

PATRIARCHY

1 Corinthians 11:8-9. "For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was man created for the woman; but the woman for the man. Calvin comment on these verses “Paul establishes by two arguments the pre-eminence, which he had assigned to men above women. The first is that as the woman derives her origin from the man, she is therefore inferior in rank. The second is that as the woman was created for the sake of the man, she is therefore subjected to him.

Zachary M. Garris said “Contrary to complementarianism, we should start with the foundational truth that men and women have different natures and that there is a hierarchy of rank between the sexes. This hierarchy is rooted in nature. This is not to say that all men have authority over all women, but rather that women are not to hold authority over men... It should be obvious that men and women have unequal natures. As Herman Bavinck says, “Nature teaches this distinction, and no science or philosophy is needed to acquaint oneself with this. Man and woman differ in physical structure and physical strength, in psychological nature and psychological strength; thereby they naturally enjoy different rights and are called to different duties In commenting on 1 Corinthians

11:7-10, John Calvin says that God conferred upon man “superiority over the woman” with woman being “inferior in rank.” Commenting on 1 Timothy 2:12, Calvin says that woman “by nature (that is, by the ordinary law of God) is formed to obey” and thus Paul “bids them [women] be ‘quiet,’ that is, keep within their own rank.

HOW WOMEN EMASCULINATE THEIR MEN

All we have been talking above was to set a stage to this main part of our discussion. We began our small writing on ‘How women emasculate their Men, and hate the very men they created’ appealing to nature and creation as we should! Then moved to explaining some of the perversions brought by sin, i.e Feminism, Complementarianism, … It is now legitimate to conclude with specifics;

A. One of the ways in which women emasculate men is by refusing to be subjected to male authority, both to their Fathers and their Husbands accordingly. Instead of seeing marriage in hierarchical lenses where husband is the head of the wife (therefore inferior to him), and children as subjected to their parents, they prefer to speak or see marriage as a partnership. Equality has so infected every area of life to the extent that, no hierarchy is accepted even to their Fathers. Even when yield to their Father (as the plain in the 5th commandment, they can’t fathom the transfer of this authority to their husbands- Number 30:3-14).

Some have even gone so far as to see themselves as the ‘queen’ of marriage with men as servants! They are in marriage to be served, with no responsibility whatsoever. Any failure to be served according to their feminist wish, ends up in divorce courts or endless blackmails.

They speak only of a husband’s “leadership” instead of Husbands “authority” and “rule”. This is the way evangelical feminists behaves, by embracing deceptively the ‘traditional wife’ cliché́ while rejecting male authority and embracing what they call “male leadership”! They have a version of leadership that does not have authority. They voice so much Home-making while turning their husbands into provision machines who have no real authority at home and bossed around by these women through complementarian collaboration. But it is natural that with responsibility goes privilege! The responsibility to lead must go with it’s privilege of having authority over those you lead! The same bible that call men to provide give them authority over their wives.

The Bible doesn’t speak of ‘leadership’ instead it says “Christ has authority over the church, and Paul compares the husband as “head” of the wife to Christ as “head” of the church (Ephesians 5:23). Would complementarians also prefer to speak of Christ as only having “leadership” over the church? Of course not. Christ has authority over the church, and a husband has authority over his wife”-Garris said.

Women need “AUTHORITY” of their husband, not partnership. This is God’s original design when He created Adam and Eve! Eve came as a helper to Adam who already had creational mandate.

Zachary M. Garris said “while a husband’s authority in marriage certainly includes responsibility, he still possesses actual authority... Similar to Paul, Peter says wives should “be subject” [υ#ποτασσόμεναι] to their husbands (1 Peter 3:1). Peter appeals to “holy women” of the Old Testament, who adorned themselves with the “beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit” (1 Peter 3:4-5). He specifically appeals to Sarah, who “obeyed” [υ#πήκουσεν, hupekousen] Abraham and called him “lord” [κύριον, kurion] (3:6). Peter is ,◌ִד֖ני◌ֹ א[ ”citing Genesis 18:12, where Sarah referred to Abraham as “my lord adoni]. Of course, Sarah did not use the word “lord” in the same way as it is used as a title for God. She used it as a respectful title of authority for her husband. But it acknowledged his authority nonetheless. Evangelical feminist have found a way to pay rip service to men’s authority while denying them this lordship and have invariable emasculated them.

I have been looking at a trend with some of the very known ‘prominent’ Christian women on podcasts and social media “preach” or teach of SUBMISSION to the authority of Man eloquently! But the version of submission they are teaching is the kind of submission that is CONDITIONAL! i.e they insist that women should be willing to submit to Men as long as the Man is leading them in the right way, or not ‘abusive’ or is not leading them to sin! Which may sound quite reasonable at first because men are also sinners who can and do abuse their authority! In fact their authority is derivative and not absolute.

But “men leading in the right way” is explained to eventually mean that “Men will only lead them when they agree with them on the direction”. As a picture, imagine an army where soldiers carry out the command of the superiors only when they agree with them! Interestingly, these same women insist that Men MUST love their wives UNCONDITIONALLY! If Men dare to put condition on their ‘love’ to their wives, all hell break loose. This double standard is the reason why most young Men see marriage as less appealing to them per modern arrangements! Because not only can we call it unjust logically, it is unbiblical. Even modern churches are of no help to them because ‘they dare not speak about the sins of women’. Instead they have turned Men into punching bags (as they are easy target-there is no social and church repercussions for attacking men) when addressing the decline of Marriage. It feels like a trap! Churches collaborate with women (in not demanding their responsibility in the declining marriages), then push men in unhealthy marriage, in order that these same elders will control the same men through their wives.

Not to whitewash real abuse in marriage, but this word ‘abuse’ has also been misused and became so vague that it has come to mean for instance that, ‘if a man decides a certain direction and the woman object to it, yet the Man insists on it, then He is not considering her emotions and fit of the label of “abuser”. With that, she is allowed to rebel against him. This is not Authority! neither should we call it submission in the biblical sense. Authority means that ‘even when you don’t understand’, a Man must labor in love to explain as a principal, but your lack of understanding should not paralyze life! It means that ultimately the man decides and take responsibility for the decisions. We must call out women who enter into marriage with Men they don’t trust enough to submit to them in all things.

I heard someone saying, ‘even decision from Church elder’s meeting are changed on a phone call on Wednesday by elders claiming “they have prayed over those taken decisions taken on Sunday, while in reality it’s the women who decided to overturn those decisions at home (no conviction, no backbone...only weak and effeminate Men scolded by their women here and there). All these in the name of being ‘loving husbands! “Even the Pagan know, that if they get hold of women and children, they will ultimately have men by remote control. Satan can’t miss this also.

“Notwithstanding I have a few things against thee, because thou sufferest that woman Jezebel, which calleth herself a prophetess, to teach and to seduce my servants to commit fornication, and to eat things sacrificed unto idols. -Revelation 2:20

B. God created man to subdue and have dominion over the earth, and masculinity in a sense means exactly that! Service, responsibility, warship and work. He was created to work for 6 days and God gave him a wife as a helper suitable for him in this creation mandate. That is why we are told in Proverbs 21:19 “Better to live in a desertthan with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.”

A woman who is nagging, contentious and angry is not a helper in Man’s mission to have dominion over the earth! She is a destroyer of that mission and is bound to tempt a Man to be docile and effeminate.

The spirit of being combative is a masculine virtue, and men are equipped mentally and physically for it. Men are naturally conquerors (of cities and kingdom and nature...) and builder ... it is dreadful when Men have to conquer and put to order their combative wives. Most of home violence can vanish through this very thing! Yet some women create monsters out of their own husbands and hate the very monster they have created.

Sometimes Men become conscious of the dreadfulness of the situation where they are to conquer their wives either physically, mentally or psychologically, and then become DOCILE to avoid it(so that peace may prevail). Yet Women naturally hate/resent and despise docile Men. It is against nature for men to be docile and against women desire in men! The peace that seem to prevail in this situation is not really peace. It is an attempt to accommodation.

Usually Men fall into this trap thinking they just want peace to prevail or through their own cowardice and lack of conviction. In other words, Women tempts men to be docile through their combativeness and then hate the very docile/effeminate men they have created through this combativeness. That is why the bible say that women are to be of a quiet and silent spirit! Not domineering and combative. Proverbs 14:1 The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. It is exactly why this modern attitude of cheering young women as being “CONFIDENT” when in reality they are being incentivized and encouraged to be combative (Gushyirisoni) has contributed not in small measure to increasing divorces or tearing down of homes where it has not created docile men in those homes. Any sampling of men in this country will confirm this reality. I was surprised at how men have even become SHAMELESS while sharing this to stranger (random sampling) whenever I tried to prove this experientially! This doesn’t mean that Women are to be taken advantage of, far from that. There is a feminine way to be decisive, confident and firm.

When mothers are combative and contentious, they raise boys who are either docile or disobedient. They will either affirm their nature as conqueror and try to conquer their mothers (in which way they become disobedient because this nature is affected by sin and is not biblically guided) or they become docile and their mothers will hate them for both. As mentioned above, this is why even promiscuous ladies say that they like “bad boys”, they like someone they can’t control! someone who is not docile, someone to submit to, that is female nature. However sinful they sink, nature always betray them.

C. Another way Women emasculate their Men is through Manipulation. A woman maybe submissive, but manipulative in her submission. Conscious or unconscious of it.

I have been seeing a statement on social media of some women saying that “actually submissive women control their husbands!” Their interest for submission is only that it allows them to control their husbands while claiming to be submissive! what a tragedy. They manipulate their men by selling to themselves as submissive while pushing their way through. They manipulate their men into believing that they have authority over them when in reality, it is these women who lead the show!

It is very interesting and educative to read the story of Samson, and note how Delilah exploited the weakness of Samson and manipulated him to ruin. The bible command men to love their women. It goes further and even tells men that their women are weaker vessel, which it is clear even naturally. Yet some women exploit this as an advantage to control their husbands, in what is sometimes known as ‘the tyranny of the weakest’.

Delilah said to Samson “And she said unto him, how canst thou say, I love thee, when thine heart mocked me these three times, and hast not told me wherein thy great strength lieth not with me? thou hast.” -JUDGES 16:15. This is the tactic! Women know that Men are commanded to love their wives, they understand that the accusation to men of not loving their wives hits hard and deeper, and they use this card to get their way irrespective of their men’s point of view, principle or standard! This has become a cage for many men! In fact some women will deny their men even intimacy for allegedly not yielding to their demand as a way to prove their love! “If he doesn’t love you”(which means falling in her traps), why dare you? Manipulation.

Tragically Samson’s heart was with Delilah, but Delilah’s heart was not with him. Her accusation was a manipulative tactic to get her way! Look at Delilah persistence “thou hast mocked me these three times”, she accused Samson of over and over again publicly humiliated her! He had to yield to her. It doesn’t occur to her that maybe Samson had good intentions to hide it! She insisted. The picture is like that woman in proverbs 27:15 where we are told “A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.” When it is raining outside, you can’t go outside and you can’t relax inside either because of the dropping of rain create noise inside!

These droppings of rain might be understood to mean gentle, soft irritating insistence on what a woman wants like Delilah did! By this the Man is made to feel that he is the problem, the obstacle of peace in the house... hence, Men become incentivized to yield so that peace may prevails! And women become leaders of the home deceptively. She knows she can get her way through insistence, denying him intimacy, being rude, … Interestingly, these women will despise their men for not standing up to them and falling into their tricks, and will deliver them to Satan, world and the flesh (our ultimate enemy) like Delilah delivered Samson to his enemy. Otherwise, Delilah could have been satisfied with the eventual yield of Samson to her demand as proof of his love to her like she alleged.

At times, because Men are as well Sinful, when a woman catch her Man in a given sin or weakness, she turns that into a threat to control him, a stepping stone to manipulate her way! Whenever the Man push for something that the women does not approve of, she reminds him that “he has to choose between keeping up with his plan and get exposed for the other sin/weakness or else abandon his leadership and peace/dignity prevail. Interestingly, this become an unforgivable sin. A tool in the hand of this woman to manipulate him always. I heard one woman say “I divorced my husband because he was too perfect for me”, at first, I didn’t understand what she implied! it could be that she was not able to catch him in a sin so sensitive as to control/manipulate him through it, so she was uncomfortable being in a relationship she can’t manipulate!

There is chaos in the world in regard to gender role with the rise of feminism,... yet instead of Older Christian women trying to “teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands ... Titus 2:3-5. They are creating alternative pulpits to Men, nagging on podcasts, questioning male authority publicly, irritating, quarrelling openly, combative, promiscuous...and through this manipulation, they have gained their way!

A. Gender Androgyny. When women reject submission, reject a quiet spirit, reject homemaking for careerism; they are rejecting everything that make them feminine, and blurring any difference between men and women, which eventually makes Men alien to what a true Man to Woman relationship ought to look like. HENCE Men either become feminine men who want to be proposed to, who expects women to make first moves, women to pay for dates... or become hostile to these masculine women (because women are poor at being men, men still fight to overpower them!).

As Michael Forster said “It is not a question of whether Patriarchy will rule on not, it is the question of which patriarchy. Thus, evil men who are a product of this mess, who don’t know how women and men ought to behave, will subdue women or fuel contempt for femininity itself! That is why we have things like “Men going their own way movement”

Interestingly, though women reject their gender role, they still demand man to make the 1st move (why take lead in initiating relationship when we are partners? Why not the other way around!?), to be a gentleman, to pay for dates...and all other patriarchal privileges. The moment women become manly (which they are bad at naturally-they raise a generation of feminized men), they drag men to their level, then complain of the ‘lack of masculine Men’. It is natural for a man to see no need to be protective, provide,... to a version of himself! That is why men tell other men to man up! Men develop their urge to protect and find fulfillment in priestly work to women and child because they appreciate their vulnerability and femininity, so the moment women become masculine, this vulnerability vanishes and Men’s view of women become upside-down.

I was listening the other day to one prominent guy asking rightly “Women say they hate a controlling Man! But at the same time want to be protected by Men! How do you expect a Man to protect something he can’t control!? You have got a woman who is wild (blinging trouble from here and there), I have no control over that, yet I must protect her! How is that fair?” in other words, I take all the responsibilities for her actions with no privilege! She creates problem here and there without any control from me, but I have to be the shock-absorber of her carelessness! this is a losing game. This is exactly why some men has realized all these injustices and double standard in modern view of gender roles, and chose to deal with women per contracts (business deal) instead of biblical way of Covenants. The state that create and enforces marriage law has a egalitarian idol (that is not biblically guided) erected at its center! Yet even churches seem clueless about it. Garris said “God has designed men to lead their families, and thus women are also suffering as a result of the decline of men. The erosion of masculinity harms us all. Everyone is aware of the breakdown of the family in the West and its effect on children, many of whom are growing up fatherless or splitting time with their divorced or never-married parents. However, women too are harmed by this breakdown. There are many bad men in the world, and there are now fewer good men doing their job to protect and provide for their wives and children. Women are left vulnerable, and they are being used sexually rather than committed to in marriage.

I was listening to a lady arguing ‘if women need protection, it is only protection from Men”. Depravity is not a Male issue. This world is full of evil, and the only way evil prevail is through silence and inaction of good people as one man said! it is only when the good, principled men stand up, only when women become feminine and raise these good men through standing behind their husbands in total subjection as the church do to Christ, that the vulnerable women will be protected. It is not through feminism and sexual androgyny! Men in women sport is not the way to protect women, and it is not the way to show that women are ‘able’. It is a way to prove that feminism and abandonment of gender role has led to generation of bad men who can’t protect women (including protecting women from themselves).

We are told in the bible (1 Timothy 2:15) we are told ‘Yet she will be saved through childbearing if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control’. This verse can be understood in 2 ways;

1. The act of bearing children doesn’t merit anything before God WORTHY of eternal life, women are saved by grace through faith alone in the Christ atoning work on the cross like every one of us. such faith, being a living faith, produces womanly behavior, exemplified by the bearing of children...We are not “saved” by good works, but those who are justified by faith in Christ, work out their salvation in obedience to God (Philippians 2:12). Therefore, women are saved through adhering to God given role i.e marry, child bearing, guide the house, submit to their husband ... because faith without work is dead as James chapter 2 teaches. 2.That women having brought the curse in the world through the temptation of Satan and the yielding to it by Eve, they are saved from that shame of having ruined the human race by bearing children and raising them into godliness. When women complain about the lack of Godly Men! it usually happens because some mother somewhere failed to play her part in training her boy into manliness. Therefore, women emasculate Men by refusing to adhere to their God given role and failing to raise godly children who embrace their role as Men and women.

E. Women create emasculate their men through tempting them to abandon God and his way of life as Men. Christianity, truth or in other words God is the only thing that model what true masculinity really is! Any version of Masculinity that is not rooted in the bible is just another self-help vain philosophy. A truly masculine Man stick to God’s prescription in good times despite his wife’s tempting unlike what Adam did, and do the same in adversity like Job did when his wife suggested he renounce God. But equally responsible is the wife to learn not only how she is not going to be tempted, but how she is will not tempt her husband!

Adam fell into his wife’s temptation, and what came out was not only the curse of the whole humanity, but also the relationship between him and his wife! It not like the wife got benefits out of it. She got first to be abandoned by her husband (when he blamed her instead of owning the sin as the federal head), then came specific curses for her! When wives tempt their men to drift from God’s word (and thus God’s way of life including masculinity), they are first inviting themselves to be victims at the hands of the same men but also calling for judgement from God on themselves!

One man said “it is more telling that of all the things Satan had to take from Job when God gave him ‘go ahead’, Satan spared his wife! And it is not long until we find out who sided with. She said “Then said his wife unto him, Dost thou still retain thine integrity? curse God, and die.”-Job 2:9 This is the same script Satan uses by teaming up with women against God’s way of life in regards to masculinity. This is how feminism itself started! It started with women activists against what they called ‘oppression of women by Patriarchal society’ and eventually sucked in men one by one until we got it the way it is now.

Garris wrote “First-wave feminism sought to make the economic, political, and social status of women equal to that of men, with its chief goal being the political right for all women to vote. This movement was led by women such as Susan B. Anthony (1820–1906) and Elizabeth Cady Stanton (1815–1902)…The second wave of feminism came several generations later in the 1960s, with the focus on women’s legal and social equality. This wave fought for a woman’s right to initiate divorce proceedings, no-fault divorce, a woman’s right to abortion, and equitable wages… While third-wave feminism is not monolithic, it has largely been behind the push for homosexuality and the celebration of sexuality as a means of empowerment. From women movement for equal rights to feminized men who find fulfillment in Homosexuality! As it happened to Eve, now women are left alone at the hands of weak, evil, effeminate modern man and the judgement of God on feminist lifestyle (single grandma living with cats surviving on drugs, women who inherits both the curse of Adam to eat through their sweats and that of eve of pain in childbearing).

I conclude with the words of Moses in Deuteronomy 30:19 “This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live.

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