WHAT A SON NEED FROM HIS DAD

I. INTRODUCTION

From infancy to adulthood, and often to death, a child’s number one Hero is his Dad. He looks up to him, expects from him and study (trained) from him what true Manhood is. Every boy is born Male, but he needs his Father as both a yard stick and a guide to mature into Manhood. Michael Foster rightly said “Through the oversight of the Father and encouragement of Male peers, a Boy over years builds the confidence and Masterly of Manhood.”

A.W Pink also said “Parents and not Sunday school teachers are divinely required to educate their little ones. Nor is this to be an occasional or sporadic thing but one that is to have constant attention.” Without the guide and discipline of the Father, a boy grows clueless on how to nurture and put to Profit his masculine nature.

The situation we in now in regards to manhood is so pathetic! Not only is manhood scarce in our society, Manhood itself is considered a threat. You will hear words like toxic masculinity, deadbeat, emotional intelligence… all weaponized to fight true masculinity. Men are told to be androgynous with Egalitarian championing in defining “equality to mean SAMENESS”. Feminists have gained the mantle and openly call Men trash, oppressors thus every law in land is made with that Presupposition (e.g: If a lady accuse a boy of rape, it doesn’t require the evidence, nor do we have to question the lady responsibility in the act, the boy is ipso facto the responsible one and should be locked.)

All these leave men thinking that there is something wrong with them or confused about their nature. Yet the Bible is clear that God created Male and Female, in his own Image he created them (Men and Women are equal in worth before God) Yet are made differently with their difference engraved even in their nature in reflection to the role God assigned them. As Garris said “The Bible speaks to how men and women should behave (gender as a social expression), and it ties such roles to the natural biological differences between men and women (biological sex) … a man is to act like a man and a woman is to act like a woman… God has assigned different gender roles and duties to humans based on their biological sex. While these roles vary in cultural expression and are subject to distortion as a result of sin, they are rooted in creation, not culture… A person’s “sex” is biologically determined (either male or female), and “gender” is a social expression of this biological basis (masculine or feminine).

This article therefore is an attempt to Torch in the thick darkness of our time and give a glimpse of true Manhood. As again Michael Foster said “We want to restore masculine piety; the duties we have to God and neighbor as Men. Because as a man goes, so goes his household; as a household goes, so goes the church; and as the church goes, so goes society.” I hope and Pray that by the Grace of God, who draws straight line using crooked stick, may use this simple and poor utterances to sweep this Nation with the revival of Manly Men.

I. BE POSITIVELY GOOD- SERVING

Doug Wilson defined Masculinity as the glad assumption of sacrificial responsibility. Father must train his son to gladly assume Masculine responsibilities! How does masculine service look like, and what do we mean by ‘being positively good!”

AUTHORITY

It is also worth noting that in Old Testament and New Testament all Leadership (civil, domestic and ecclesiastical) were all exclusively Male-Patriarchy. Therefore, masculine service first of all is service by leading biblically. He is not to serve by being a mere voter on the path of his family! This a father must teach his son by example and practically creating opportunity where the son exercises this leadership. This thing of leaders being servant is well understood in civil authority, that is why they coined the name “civil servant” yet when it is applied to family and masculinity, mountain bleeds and everyone lose his/her mind.

As Garris perfectly said “Masculinity in the Bible is associated with strength, authority, responsibility, and mission. So it is no coincidence that God has put men and not women in places of leadership. male

authority is rooted in the differing natures of men and women and that there is a hierarchy of rank (not value) between the sexes. These terms make many modern people uncomfortable, but they are biblical concepts that are necessary for grounding proper relationships between men and women…

1 Corinthians 11:8-9: "For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was man created for the woman; but the woman for the man... Calvin comment on these verses "Paul establishes by two arguments the pre-eminence, which he had assigned to men above women. The first is that as the woman derives her origin from the man, she is therefore inferior in rank. the second is that as the woman was created for the sake of the man, she is therefore subjected to him..."

1Tim 3:4 “One that ruleth well his own house, having children in subjection with all gravity;” The biblical word is ‘ruling’ or in other words ‘putting on order’ this is how manly service looks like! Of course, many people see this as an exclusively privileged position, but toil and work it requires only grace can give. You have to be willing to be the bad guy if necessary, you have to protected those under your authority both from themselves and yourself! You have to take responsibility for their actions, …All these a son must learn from his father! The complexity of it, the abuse of it, …

PROVISION

It is worth noting that When Man was created, He was given an assignment to ‘dress it and cultivate it and keep it’ Gen 2:16 before the woman appear on the scene in Gen 2:18 as a help meet for him. What does this mean!? It means that 1.the responsibility to cultivate(provision) is primarily a Man’s responsibility, 2. The appearance of the woman on the scene did not erase this responsibility from Man because she is not presented as a replacement or a cooperator (working independent of Man in cooperation) but rather, she is presented as a helper to the Man.

The Provision for the Family as primarily Man’s responsibility is also evident in the Curse God directed to Man after the fall (Gen 3:17 ‘cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow Shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life…19 In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat thy bread). All these emphasizes the responsibilities a Father ought to teach his son to gladly assume. This is the area he is expected to master Serving. He should also serve his family by prophet to his family through teaching God’s words and guarding it against heresies and sinful practices. He should be priest always crying out to the lord and bringing his family before the Lord.

BEING POSITIVELY GOOD: Assuming responsibility is not enough. Every service is either rendered with reference to God or with reference to self. There is no neutrality. Every Patriarch will either follow in the footsteps of Cain of Abel. There are two kinds of Men in the World. There are Men who render their services with piety and reverence to God and his ways and they are other render it in rebellion to God and his ways, they serve self and serve by corrupting God’s ways. It is therefore the duty of a Father to train his son to that which is good, and reflects God’s design. That which Glorify God. Either while assuming authority or provision. Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Ephesians 6:4 And Ye Fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” It is therefore important that Fathers Discipline, Prune... his son into Godliness.

There are young people because of lack of Guidance or because of taking counsel from half-baked Men, have embarked on a Mission to be manly for sake of it! They want to be men for the sake of being anti-everything under it! (women, children…) They only want to be threat to anything against its own Power. This kind of Patriarchy is evil, self-satisfying and anarchy. There is no rule other than what they want.

Others having paid lip service to the word of God, they have determined to have nothing to do with being positively good and chose to be neutrally good. There is no bone in them, They don’t harm anyone, their creed is anti-aggression, they are simply Pacifists. If a thief/killer break into their home, their only hope is to plead for mercy. Like Martlyn Lloyd jones pointed out ‘there people who sincerely believed that Hitler could have been prevented by dialogue! and like him, everyone else can and ought to.

These Men are good for evil rulers! It was Edmund Burke who said “the only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing” therefore these evil rulers don’t want anyone to resist them. These evil rulers usually uses various methods to pacify Men (making them unfit to resist or think through real issues by pre-occupying them with entertainment, video games, addiction to screens instead of real life …). So these Christian Pacifists or pacifists in general are another arm used by these evil rulers. You will see it at how quick evil ruler are quick to appeal to Christianity when their scandals which ought to out sit them is out! They parade Bishops, Pastors, Cardinals … on TV with a message like ‘Christian should seek heavenly kingdom and avoid being trapped in this evil kingdom, this world is not our home, we call for peace and unity… In fact, they themselves will become Christian for a moment.

For these Pacifists, they wrestle not against the flesh and blood, theirs is exclusively a spiritual battle. Though they look peaceful, these Church effeminates excel in point out and insisting masculine sins to tame any masculine urge to protect and fight to the good of those they are supposed to protect. Masculine men are sinners like anyone else in need of continual repentance, yet these effeminate men use the shame of the sins of these men to condition them against masculinity instead of being again their sinfulness. It is therefore up to Fathers to point out all these edges and errors, teaching him that ‘being positively good involve lying your shoulder against the arrows of the enemy and fighting back to conquer and subdue him.

“Prov 29:2 When the righteous are in authority, the people rejoice: but when the wicked beareth rule, the people mourn.” It is not hard to imagine the danger of placing a sword in the hand of a wicked man AND examples abound in our world of today. Men ruler-ship is natural and inevitable, the question therefore is not whether women or Men will rule, the question is ‘which king of Men ought to rule’ I.e which kind of Patriarchy. It therefore should be Father’s priority to raise Godly sons who serve those under their care sacrificially and above all in Godly way. As Voddie Baucham said “It has been said that as goes the family, so goes the world. It can also be said that as goes the father, so goes the family.

Christian Men today are asked to see themselves as androgynous. They are asked to develop their feminine side. In order for a man to regarded as good, he has to be ‘nice’ which now means that He has to be approved of females (the current idol). But this boil down to theology taught in most churches! If we teach that Godliness means being soft in tone and action, be Nurturer, being agreeable (avoiding ‘division’ regardless), able to change diapers and helping at home …then we have turned Masculine goodness into a feminine one. When we talk about being Positively good, we don’t refer to this niceness mentality of our day but rather positively working towards that which is good and Manly.

The word for it has come out and that is “Servant Leadership”. Being unable to erase repetitive text emphasizing Male Leadership, the cunning devil have used this and turned Men into Helper of their wives, … instead of vice versa. “If a woman vows a vow to the LORD and binds herself by a pledge while within her father’s house in her youth . . . if her father opposes her on the day that he hears of it, no vow of hers, no pledge by which she has bound herself shall stand” (Numbers 30:3-5). Same with husband to his wife because her father’s covenantal headship is transferred to her husband in marriage (Numbers 30:6-8).

II. BE DANGEROUS

It is impossible to be a good Man without being a dangerous man at the same time. Without this dangerousness, you and those under your care as simply prey to dangerous predators of this evil world. Michael Forster writes “Indeed both boys and girls tend to love their father especially because he is to be feared. It is precisely because he is dangerous that they value his presence in the family, not because he is dangerous to them but because he is dangerous to the sin and chaos that threatens the harmony of the household. He is the center that holds their world together; if he were not dangerous, he could not defend that world against everything that endangers it and threatens to pull it apart.”

Young boys need to be trained to use Manliness for the good of people under their care and society at Large through standing and confronting dangers. Men must build physical and Mental strength, mastering the art of sacrificing themselves for the good of others.

Every Man must stand out and work towards Heroism, not video games, pleasure-mania, … Fathers Must read/ tell stories of Men of the past who heroically stood for others and work hard to portray that to their boys in their lives. Men should be very concerned with their physical strength and protection skills in order to be dangerous to threat. This is why Men only ought to be in Military combat. When you see a MAN, who is obese and barely carry himself across two stairs without gasping, you are seeing a Man who 1. Lack self-discipline! 2. You are looking at glutton, 3. You are seeing a Man who is vulnerable (with his family) to any threat that come his way.

One man said ““Masculinity in the Bible is associated with strength, authority, responsibility, and mission.”-Gird up thy loin now like a man…job 40:7. Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be strong. - 1Corinthians 16:13. God created man with comparable muscular strength compared to women, because God cannot give the assignment to someone without equipping him! We therefore should be Men of strength. The world is full of calamity and misery, and men should be ready to stand between them and those under their protection. I understand that there is a matter of genetics involved, but as a principle this must be pressed on the mind of young Men. This goes hand in hand with what we talked about above of being positively good!

Physical strength is not enough, Men need mental strength and both should work hand in hand. The kingdom of God is not of food, drinks and strength but of righteousness. A strong unholy Man is simply a disaster and the moral campus for strong men should not be pivoted on Majority consensus I.e; 51% votes for the killing of the remaining 49%. neither should it be determined by the enlightened of the Society. Righteous Strong Men fetch their mental soberness from the Objective word of God alone.

A Man with no mental spine is honestly a castrated Man. From religion, to politics, to economics to philosophy… a real Man must have a clear-cut worldview to guard against ‘vain manly (fleshly) philosophizing we are warned against in the bible- Colosians 2:8 “Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.” Calvin said on this verse “As many have mistakenly imagined that philosophy is here condemned by Paul, we must point out what he means by this term…philosophy is nothing else than a persuasive speech, which insinuates itself into the minds of men by elegant and plausible arguments.” Real Men should not be driven by what is plausible but what is true. Wherefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober… we are told in 1 Peter 1:13. Nothing is more important to a Father than training his Son in truth as we shall see below.

III. STUDYING

Children of this generation have inherited a culture of death. Everything is soaked with Propaganda that even the so-called education of our time which is allegedly meant to train children is nothing but a Propaganda machinery for the state and Corporations. Rightly did Thomas Sowell say “To much of what is called education is little more than an expensive isolation from reality.”

Coupled with the laziness that is characteristic of our time and the Scarcity of the exercise of self-education, even among Parents, Children are left with no other option other than being damn. The New York times wrote “They’re the first generation in modern history to score lower on standardized academic tests than the one before it,” Dr. Jared Cooney Horvath, 43, told The Post. “And to make matters worse, most of these young people are overconfident about how smart they are. The smarter people think they are, the dumber they actually are. These are not my words! But the deeper is ‘who is to blame for all of this!? Biblically speaking, it the Parents who are to blame because as we said in our opening statement, ‘it is parents who are entrusted with the responsibility to train their children (whatever arrangements they make, the responsibilities is theirs)

Kids are conditioned to sit in front of an ‘expert’ (who is not more than a brain washed individuals fighting for bread), for 8- 10 hours a day for 12-20 years of his life only to be fit for job in a corporation and warship the state. It is interesting to note a number of College graduate and Even Masters holder who confessed that they were unable to teach their own children

through nursery and Primary level education as one Mother confessed to me YET are heartily committed to subjecting their kids to the same education. They have become programmed to depend on the state and are therefore opposed to anything that call them to take responsibilities.

As Christians Men if we continue to lose children this way, then we have failed as Men. Every education is not neutral, it has a god it serves. Tragically these Parents have handed the souls of their little ones to be trained by Romans but keep wondering why they turn out rebellious. This is a very big subject but what we wanted to point out is that Fathers should own the responsibility for the education of their sons.

Engaging in Critical thinking; We are not the First people to be here o this planet. There are billions of people who went before us and luckily enough millions of them have documented life lessons for us to use. Any child who know how to read and right can study successfully above 95 % of what He need to know through guided self-education. Fathers should therefore teach their sons how to filter opposing ideas, how to build arguments, how to spot propaganda, how to critically think through issue and not move by the whim of mass mentality and advertisements, all in the lenses of Christian Worldview.

Michael Foster wrote “Young men are always the target of an evil patriarchy, because God made them to rule, they are a threat to existing rule. Therefore, evil Patriarchs always do 3 things;

1. Harness them: Turn/ Channel their masculine energy towards the ends of these evil Patriarchs. E.g: Radicalization, Patriotism and Military training, schooling …

2. Pacify them: Channeling their energy into pursuits that leave them impotent to rebel. E.g : Slavery, video games, Circuses, sex and porn … Fruitless pursuits to escape into rather than doing the hard work of fighting.

3. Destroy them: Young Men who cannot be harnessed or pacified must be crushed. They are too dangerous to an evil patriarch to be allowed to live.”

Therefore, they are various forces working hard for the Mind of young boys and subsequently conquer their strength for evil. It therefore is the duty of the Father to Discipline his son mentally morally and Physically in building a shield against these propaganda machines. Train them to think and weighing everything against Alternative ideas, the incentives of an Idea, the Presupposition of an idea, who profit from an idea, is the idea worth pursuing, How can I be innovative with this or that, what is common sense (idea taken for granted in society) and what inform it,… A real Man is not moved by simply Jargon and spirit of the age. He is moved by Principle and truth.

IV. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR HARD AND UNPLEASANT DECISIONS

Our Lives are full of decision-making exercises! From the decision for daily hygiene to the once in lifetime decision of who to marry. It is equally true that most of our problems can be traced to a poor decision we made somewhere. Sound Men are men who have learned the wisdom and trained themselves in rightly judging and ordering both himself and those around him. Men as leaders should never be preoccupied by Complaint, excuses and Postponing unless justified. One Man rightly said “If you can’t take the unpleasant decision to go out of your bed, how are you going to make life changing decisions.”

Young men must be trained to take hard and sometimes unpleasant decisions to discipline themselves. They must 1st discipline themselves to put to death self-rule by turning away from wisdom and strength in self and finding true wisdom and strength in God. Quite a number of young men have been swept away by various things which are against the will of God e.g Addictions, bad company, other dopamine drip … and are running from one counselling room to another on things they would simply take responsibility for and take unpleasant (to the flesh) decisions through seeking wisdom and strength in God. They have become prey to the spirit of the age simply because of lack of fear of God before them and being wise in their own eyes (arrogance).

Leviticus 19:32 “ Thou shalt rise up before the hoary head, and honour the face of the old man, and fear thy God: I am the Lord.”

Together with fearing God and seeking wisdom from him, We are reminded to honor the Elderly. This include honoring and considering their counsel while taking decisions. It is fathers who mold this behavior in young sons! 1Tim 3:4 “One that ruleth well his own house, having

children in subjection with all gravity;” Son are to be taught how to be in subjection to elders considering their wisdom and knowledge. Men plan, men decide, men build.

V. CONTROLLING EMOTION

A. Controlling your Temper

Proverb 25:28 “He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.”

Proverb 16:32 “He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.”

Ecclesiastes 7:9 “Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.”

It is common to find People who squander a lifetime achievement in milliseconds because of lack of control over their temper. In the above Proverbs, on one side a Man who is not able to control his spirit (temper) is compared to a city without walls. It sucks in all chaos, never at peace and heading for inevitable destruction. But on the other hand, He that is able to rule over his anger is better than a warrior who win a city, He is better than a Hero. And finally, the Writer of Ecclesiastes nails it to its conclusion, ‘Anger resteth in the bosom of fools’

To be sure, they are things we are to be angry about legitimately, we must be angry at what make God angry. We must be angry and not sin. We are to be angry but not loose reasonableness and the control of the situation at hand, not squander opportunities or fall into sin.

Anger is usually a byproduct of the value we place on something or ourselves. E.g; if kids are playing with my computer, the value I have in it determine the level of anger I get. In fact anger can be a sign of what we have subconsciously idolized. We should therefore train son to have proportionate and ordered value of everything including ourselves. It is impossible to make someone angry and lose control if He think of Himself lowly.

It’s NOT about Genetics (oh my Dad and my Grand Dad had uncontrolled temper) as it is about Discipline and learning. As long as you are an apologist of it, it will not go. Life is a battle and you can’t win a battle without being Sober, calm, in control and reasonable.

B. Facing the Fear

Fear is natural and in fact some kinds of fear are quite commendable! The Bible says:

Proverb 14:16 “A wise man feareth and departeth from evil: but a fool rageth, and is confident.” E.g : When a notorious sinner is happy and confident in his death, it’s not because he is wise, He is indeed a fool. The departing here can mean forsaking out sins but it can also apply to moving away from an approaching natural calamity. It is truly the character of wise men to foretell, examine the reasonableness of their fear and take precautions, Yet for a fool He down play everything and consequences become dire. It is therefore the duty of a FATHER to help his son master his Fears and emotions. There is a kind of rebellion (contrasted with fear) that is actually commended by the bible I.e Matthew 10:28 “And fear not them which kill the body but are not able to kill the soul:…”

But other kind of fear need to be silenced from son. Proverb 29:25 “The fear of Man bringeth a snare: but who so putteth his trust in the Lord shall be safe.” This is the kind of fear that cause someone to be pre-occupied with what other think of him or will do to him instead of doing what is right. It a fear that is a snare because it make someone paralyzed in danger! The fear of an unknown future should also be silenced for we are told “Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature? Matthew 6:27 The future is not to be Feared because it is ordained of God who work all things for our good. The future rather is Prepared with labor in patience and trusting in the Lord.

C. Silence is Golden

Wise men are not always silent but they know when to.

Jesus said that we will give an account for every worthless or idle word we utter. We are to be quick to listen and slow to speak James 1:19. It is of great importance to gain mastery of our tongue “For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: 1Peter 3:10”

Here are some of times we must keep quiet;

1. When we don’t know or we are not sure about what we are going to speak about: It is very shameful and uncharacteristic of a Man to speak and his mouth look disconnected from his brain. Men must speak from conviction and principle. Stand by their words no matter what. Proverbs 13:3 “He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life: but he that openeth wide his lips shall have destruction.” This a great characteristic of a Man, because everyone you are dealing with know for a fact that ‘you are predictable and reliable. What you promise, you execute. When you speak anyhow, you end up tying yourself with your words with many regrets and unfulfilled promises.

2. When you are in a Volatile situation: In such situation we are likely to kindle unproductive exchange and add gasoline to fire. Proverbs 17:28“He that hath knowledge spareth his words: and a man of understanding is of excellent spirit. Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise: and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding.

3. When it is not the right time to say something. Some things are as important to say as to how and when to say them. Young men must learn to have manner in their conversations. There are time for loose talk, and time to mean business: To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven: …. 7. a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak” Ecclesiates 3:1&7

4. When it is not the right thing to say : For instance in words, there is respect. In Leviticus 19:32 we are told “You shall rise up before the gray headed and honor the aged, and you shall revere your God.” You should keep respectful language to elder and reverential words to God, Even silence if need be (not interrupting).

5. When it profits nothing to speak: some kind of discussions are simply vain and unprofitable and worth avoiding. “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.” Ephesians 4:29.

6. When action is much more needed than words: It is Thomas Sowell who said “People who enjoy meetings should not be in charge of anything” There are people who don’t get anything done. They are either always complaining, discussing and organizing meetings, getting new ideas always,… always talking and not executing. This is not characteristic of Men. Men must have mission and can’t do anything short of seeing it done.

7. When talking become too much: Prov 10:19 “In multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise.

D. Controlling your Passions

“A man of great wisdom or strength can do far more than a man of little. The question is which way he bends/channels his talents; to God’s way or to his own. So is with Sex. Said Michael Forster.

“God designed sex to propel us towards Creation mandate I.e ‘be fruitful and multiple’, to Picture covenant love of God towards his Church and to glue Man and Woman who is his helmet suitable to him to fulfil dominion mandate. This natural passion is not bad, neither should it be shamed (like many people like to do). It is a good instrument what put to right us.

Man being fallen, with Satan being the deceiver seek always to pervert and ruin all this. He uses many cunning schemes. He uses Evil Patriarchy to pacify Young Men through hooking them into perverted sexual activities or using Satan’s daughter as their bait. He also uses ungodly women to destroy young men, Women who take Men strength and consume. Proverbs 7:5-27

Father should train their boys to spot and avoid loud and stubborn, nagging, nasty women. As Michael foster says “The fundamental problem is a loud heart. Woman of unruly energy, who yield only to her passions. Immodest, with no imperishable quality, her feet do not remain at home prov 7:11. She swing from man to man like monkey swings from branch to branch. Men exist to serve her mission.”

The loud woman has embraced the curse against Eve to desire her own way (Genesis 3:16) instead of honoring God’s design for marriage. She is vocal about Men loving their wives “unconditionally” like Christ loved the church, but lay out conditions after conditions for her to submit to a Man (as if submitting to your husband as the church do to Christ means that the church submit to Christ conditionally.

Fathers should tell their sons to not give their strength to women Proverb 31:3, They should not nurse the desire for female approval, seeking validation from them in order to be the ‘nice guys’. Otherwise they will be many who are bossed around by women. He should also warn of false philosophy around Love, sex and covenant. In other words, Fathers ought to equip their sons to be fit for marriage.

Son should be Trained to control disappointments, remaining calm in extreme stress. Men are to be the kind of warriors with strong Hearts that fight above their friend’s dead body to secure victory, without being carried away by the passions and fears. In combat, when fellow combatant get shot, in order to win the battle you must not lose hope even when things are at odd, you must keep your emotions and disappointments well balanced. Life in nothing short of a battle. Whether one work in office, in physically straining jobs or emotional one, life is full of these and it is he who master to balance his Passions who win.

VI. BUILD RESOURCES AND BUILD LIFE

Proverbs 24:27 “Prepare thy work without, and make it fit for thyself in the field; and afterwards build thine house.” Men builds. They build ministries, they build homes, they build military and nations, … this is a very important part of Masculinity!

When God moved to curse Adam and Eve for their Sins, He Cursed Adam specifically that “Cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life; thorns also and thistles shall it bring forth to thee; and thou shalt eat the herb of the field; In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground;…” Genesis 3:17-19, It is clear that the fall did not exonerate Man from his creational mandate to dress and keep the garden of Eden! Instead the fall made it difficult. When you lok at the curse given to the woman, you can obviously see that even in curses God upheld Gender roles.

Man was created to dress and keep the garden of Eden (Genesis 2:150), a Mandate given to man before helper sweet-able for him appear on scene but after the fall, Man was to work against resistance of the curse, he is now to eat after sweating and toils, … He is now to cultivate against the thorns.

In other words, Man now live in the reality of an “economy” or scarcity, Stewarding God’s provision faithfully for the earth is the Lord’s and fullness thereof.

In such situation, MEN are tempted to avoid responsibility and become Sluggard. It is very interesting to see how many sound young Men out there who are bold and passionate but can’t actually build! One Man said “There’s a growing number oof young Christian men who can dismantle bad theology in public and still don’t know what to do with their own lives.” They can’t build ministries, they can’t build a simple sustainable life… only vocal. Proverbs 24:30 “I went by the field of the slothful, and by the vineyard of the man void of understanding; And, lo, it was all grown over with thorns, and nettles had covered the face thereof, and the stone wall thereof was

broken down.” When laziness (refraining from the sweat mandated by the cursed of Adam) combine with lack of understanding in building (be it assets, be it an income, be it a business, be it a ministry), then there is no actual masculinity.

Father should train their son in the art WORK. By work I don’t mean making sure He get a degree or is employed somewhere but rather, a positive attitude towards work, make sure He is employable not employed, Spot and Develop his talent, tame laziness… 33 “Yet a little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to sleep: So shall thy poverty come as one that travelleth; and thy want as an armed man.”

You must teach your son the basic lesson of economics/production for “the desire of the slothful killeth him;” Proverbs 21:25 so as to be able to provide for those under his care “But if any provide not for his own, especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel.” Timothy 5:8.

We live in a world that subsidize working! Now politicians are ready to bribe hand out to youth in exchange to votes… this create dependency and laziness which in turn come to haunt these youth. Work is a creational mandate for men! In fact even in the Darden of Eden Adam had to work. Proverbs 24:27 “Prepare thy work without, and make it fit for thyself in the field; and afterwards build thine house.”

Some poverty come simply despite, but work that lack preparations. Son should be taught to strategically and patiently prepare financial rewards/harvests. For instance, if young Inherit a treasure, he should be able to unearth it treasures, re-invest the profit, … I mean hard work but also Smart work. We can talk about Men’s responsibility as provider all we want, but if we don’t train how that look practically for the youth, then we are simply enjoying rhetoric!

Much can be said about Masculinity and how father’s ought to both portray and train their sons, in fact much can also be said about the above raised point. What we did was simply a kind of putting forth bullet points on this subject and we hope this will bring up conversation and clarity on this critical subject.

Gloria in excelisis Deo.